Who is a Narcissist?
A narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest in themselves or admiration of themselves. In public, they have a different behavior like they are fun, good at things, and appear in public to be compassionate and generous.
They often look like they would be desirable as friends and even as marriage partners. But once the need is over they are quite different. And their infatuation of themselves leaves no place for others. Behind this mask of extreme confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism.
How to identify a Narcissist?
Narcissists typically display most, and sometimes all, of the following traits:
- Self-focus in interpersonal exchanges
- Lack of empathy for others
- Problems distinguishing the self from others
- Hypersensitive to any insults or imagined insult
- Hate those who do not admire them
- Consider themselves an “expert” at many things
- No remorse or gratitude
- Exaggeration of their achievements
- Monopolize conversations
- Unable or unwilling to recognize the needs and feelings of others.
What to do with a narcissist?
If you want to keep the narcissist in your life around, follow these methods;
1. Set your boundaries: You need to set some boundaries and also be prepared to let minor, unintended insults go. Because if you tell your narcissistic partner every single time that he or she hurt your feelings, the relationship will sour and you will feel depressed. So save those fights for serious and intentional insults that cross certain boundaries that you are prepared to defend by leaving the relationship.
2. Identify your strength: You need to know where your power lies and how to convey it and enforce it. Use it without hurting the ego of the narcissist.
3. Be confident: Narcissist behave so smartly that every time you’ll feel you are fooled. Don’t let this kill your self-esteem and self-confidence. While living with a narcissist be confident enough and whatever you say, say it with confidence.
4. Negotiate: Just because your partner expresses with force doesn’t mean you have to fold. Everything is negotiable. You need to do it skillfully.
5. Help yourself: Narcissists like to isolate and control the people around them. It is important for you to have friends, family and a support system outside of the narcissist. Because a positive support system keeps you balanced. Also, try to stable yourself financially.
In short, while living with a narcissist you have to be strong and firm in every situation, all the time.